What the hell?

Received this email yesterday from the guy I was talking to- totally out of the blue, as the rest of the emails are completely innocuous.

Subject: RE: RE: RE: RE: RE: jazz band

How'dya like that subject line?! lol Aren't those a trip when there's like 8 RE:s? I noticed something else that made me laugh on our profiles. It said, explorers and directors are likely to have an exciting life in the bedroom.....Mmmmm lol Actually, that's kinda hot! From your fun, witty personality I bet you would be SOOO much fun in bed! I bet you talk so dirty, I love that! It has been a minute since I had some, how about you? I'll admit I'm a little sexually frustrated right now. That's kinda why I suggested a place close to you so if we both felt inclined, we could run to your place and "get acquainted" for a few hours...... ;) And fyi, I'm 10ng and thick like you wouldn't believe....

I honestly have no words.

It's in public, don't worry

I'm meeting up with the guy tonight. I'll have a bunch of my friends there and it's at an event in the park. We'll see if we have any chemistry. He does seem really nice.

Nevermind. He canceled.

And we're on again for Sunday.

Wasn't that a TV show in the 70's?

I'm done with BH. I get the impression he's gotten bored with me, and hems and haws every time I bring up something serious or talk about visiting. He is unwilling to travel to Ohio or meet halfway. Talking with him was fun, but it got to the point I was always initiating it. He would keep up the conversation, but I seemed to be always contacting him. So, I stopped. I've barely talked to him since last Friday when I told him about being out of cell phone range. He initially acted bummed, but then told me he probably wouldn't respond anyway. Which he hasn't, so I'm done. I'd rather stop now, than have strong feelings involved.

On a related note, I started up a conversation with a guy that is a friend of a friend (one of the girls I worked with in NOLA). We'll see what happens there. We're both looking for a relationship; time will tell if we have chemistry.

I'm really trying to work on taking things one day at a time and enjoying life. After a crapper of a day today, I made the effort to turn my mood around so I would be cheerful for kickball. That group of people just raises my spirits! We went to MLT's after, like we always do, and I had a great chat with Cheryl and later with Josh that really put things in perspective for me. Relationships should take some work, but if it's meant to be, it won't be as hard as I'm making it. I should enjoy being single and make the most of it. I was also told the other day, "Don't make someone your priority if you're an option." That's damn prophetic.

The Situation

I have this burning need to call Dan, knowing that he's home now, but so far I'm resisting. It's not because I miss him, but because I never really got closure. What's the best way to end it with someone that has communication issues? Stop talking!

I'm just feeling lonely since my other situation is in Michigan. What is it with me and long distance stuff? Let alone, always after the boys with issues! Also, a tiny portion of my brain is aware that I may be projecting my feelings onto a rebound since it's only been a month.

Anyway, I've been talking to BH every day since the first day he contacted me. We both are "in like" but are hesitant because of the distance. I wouldn't say we're dating, but I would go so far as to call it a flirtation with a future. While I was in NOLA, we talked for at least 3 hours every day: the hour bus ride in the morning, the hour at lunch, and the hour bus ride home. We would also text randomly throughout the evening, then a whole bunch some of the days before bed (depending on my level of sobriety). I'm going to go visit him sometime in September and spend the weekend; he's going to take me sailing.

At the very least, we don't have communication issues. There could be things that crop up in the future, but I can't think about that or I get upset. Again, reminding myself to take it one day at a time and really enjoy each one for what it is. I remind myself when I panic about the future, just where we were a month ago, which was not talking at all. Way for him to be bold!

On that- I asked why he contacted me in the first place, and he told me that he was looking for friends/flirting and had thought about me on and off since the drama reunion last year. He finally worked up the nerve to contact me on chat by making a comment about my status. Honestly, I had forgotten that we were friends on Facebook until he did.

I told him that I may be unreachable this weekend due to my family reunion being in BFE, and he's really bummed. On top of that, his phone crashed last night and he lost our entire conversation history. He's like me in that regard- he likes to go back and reread. I immediately went to the Android market and found an app that downloads your SMS to Gmail. Currently processing . . .

Immediate Update

I talked to BH all day today, and it was one of the most honest conversations I've ever had with a guy. We discussed the drama reunion at detail, and I asked him if he noticed that I was flirting with him. He said he did, and that he was interested in me, but we had both been drinking and we were surrounded by old friends who would have never let us hear the end of it. That's why he invited me to his house the next day for a party, but admitted that it would've just been me there, and I didn't show up. I had no idea!

Well, the good news is that he is still interested in me, and I'm not just reading between the lines. He actually came right out and said it! And then said, "Damn Ohio!" Which is the bad news. He lives in Kalamazoo now, and I am here. Five and a half hour drive, one way. We're going to keep talking, but maybe I'll see what he's doing Labor Day weekend . . .

Tinker toys

Well, I had a great birthday. I was single, but it ended up okay. My minor freak-out (in my head) as I approached 30 was that if I was single on that birthday, I would be single for life. That may be why I dragged it out with Dan a couple of weeks more than necessary. I'm still not going out on a lot of dates, but I am certainly using every opportunity I have to meet new people. I just wish there was someone out there that could handle me- I know I come across as a bit agressive and over-the-top, but I refuse to act falsely to attract a man.

With that note, a couple of updates, then a funny story.

The guy I was corresponding with from Chemistry stopped. Not sure why, but I reread the last note, and can't find anything that would have throw him off. Maybe he just thought we had different interests or was disappointed because I didn't suggest we meet right away. Oh well.

Correspondence with the guy from high school has taken an interesting turn. He contacted me last week to ask what the "t minus ...." comments in my Facebook status meant. He's contacted me every day since, and I remembered that he had given me his number at the drama reunion two years ago (My number is on my Facebook page, so it was only a matter of time before he contacted me). I also remember flirting with each other, but at the time, I attributed it to the fact we were both drinking. So, I sent him a text the other day. Now we've been constantly texting every day and chatting on Facebook. He's invited me to take a ride on his boat or in one of his custom built cars the next time I visit Michigan.

Today was the turning point. We had a very frank discussion about his ex wife, sex in general, work, etc. And kept talking . . . Somehow "closing the gap" was brought up, and I'm well aware he wants to meet up. I so don't know what to do, but I do know I don't really want to be in a similar situation to what I had with Dan. Although, the communication is already better. He has praised my honesty, but I guess it helps that we already knew each other from high school and drama club. Will keep you posted . . .

As promised, the funny story:

Went to Erin's housewarming party on Saturday night and had to go to the bathroom. I didn't see a lock, but I figured the fact that the door was closed would be a deterrent, or at least cause someone to take the time to knock. But no. I'm sitting there, doing my business, and Brian walks in on me. He turned red and ran out, apologizing. Of course, I had to keep teasing him about it all night for my own amusement. The truth is, I was more covered in the bathroom than I was in my bathing suit the following day, which he also saw me in. His take on the whole thing, "At least it was you, Ann." Yep. Friend zone.