Part I: Halloween Weekend

10/31/09
5:53pm Ann ??
5:53pmD u just want some, call j back
5:53pmAnn he said he had to go, he was in the middle of something
5:53pmD haha he's texting me
5:53pmAnn you're so full of crap
5:53pmD im serious
5:53pmAnn nuh uh prove it
5:54pmD how? lol he just said if you want a bootycall to call him back
5:54pmAnn no he didn't
5:54pmD i promise. call him lol
5:54pmAnn i've never heard him use the word "booty call"
5:55pmD quit being a pussy and call him
5:55pmAnn if that's true, have him call me. lol, i almost fell on my ass slipping on the tiles in my bathroom
5:56pmD lmfao
5:56pmAnn holy fuck
5:56pmD ?
5:56pmAnn you were talking to j
5:57pmD yea lol. did he call you
5:57pmAnn i so didn't believe you. he sent me a text
5:57pmD lol whatd it say
5:57pmAnn "did you call me for a booty call"
5:57pmD haha. and your response was "yes" uhhhh you didnt reply to him?
5:59pmAnn i had to think about what to say
5:59pmD lol
5:59pmAnn it took a minute
5:59pmD say 'yes i want some'
6:00pmAnn i do, but he doesn't want the same thing
6:00pmD lol. he said if its just a bootycall he would do it. lol
6:01pmAnn yeah, that's what he said
6:01pmD so get you some. lol
6:01pmAnn i'm a fucking pussy
6:01pmD jesus. quit whining about wanting some if you wont get it when its offered lol
6:03pmD :D
6:05pmAnn i've lost a little bit of trust in you
6:06pmD why
6:07pmAnn has everything i've said been passed on?
6:07pmD no? just that you want him
6:07pmAnn i thought i was speaking to you in confidence
6:08pmD psh you never said "off the record"
6:08pmAnn it's ok, i guess. he knew that at one point. god, i'm embarrassed
6:08pmD lol why
6:08pmAnn i am stupid while drunk
6:09pmD lol. go to a bar alone. promise you can find some dick if you ask
6:09pmAnn that's no fun. i mean the going alone
6:09pmD lol
6:10pmD go and be like 'who wants pussy'
6:13pmAnn no
6:13pmD awww
6:35pmAnn ok. please tell me that you're not going to say anything to jared about anything.
6:36pmD lol no. jackson says hi
6:39pmAnn who's jackson?
6:39pmD da puppy face doggy head
6:45pmAnn sorry to ignore you- i was talking to my main gay
6:48pmAnn when i said on my text it would be losing a friend, i meant it was going to be awkward at work and yp events with j until we can get back to where we were again
6:49pmAnn so it's like we're not friends
6:54pmD sure you are. i dont let shit get weird :D
6:54pmAnn not us, moron. j and i

7:03pm Misty if he honestly thought he could get that from you today...without being devoted to you..he's a fucker. im not saying you need to be mad at him, but you do need to recognize
7:03pmAnn the funny thing is, if we had still been going out from august, he could have been having regular sex. i know. he's playing me
7:04pmMisty yep...he's a little smarter than he looks. and he's a guy-which means hes a fucker. and not just literally
7:04pmAnn true dat lol
7:04pmMisty i hate boys
7:04pmAnn i hear you. but i would never make a good lesbian.
7:05pmMisty be cool with j if you have to work with him...be mature...but don't socialize with him outside of work.
7:05pmAnn and stop responding to his daily im's?
7:05pmMisty haha. im not really into the lesbian thing...bc im sure girls play games as much as boys...but i do hate boys. I would, don't be rude...just say hey-im in the middle of something...let me get back to you. then dont
7:06pmAnn isn't that a game too?
7:06pmMisty yes.
7:08pmAnn i may need you to remind me daily, lol
7:09pmMisty nope...you're just gonna have to learn how to get what you want
7:09pmAnn why am i still hung up on this dumbass? it's been two months
7:10pmMisty bc you like him...he's smart, has a good job, is a decent guy outside of a relationship, and isn't bad looking. duh.
7:10pmAnn all good qualities. i think he just needs to grow up
7:10pmMisty yep.
7:12pmMisty he could be boyfriend material...you just have to play your cards right...to make him want you like that...enough to be committed. he obviously likes you and is attracted to you, but like they say, "why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?" he thinks he can get free milk.
7:13pmAnn so besides politely ignoring him. what else should i do?
7:14pmMisty be short and to the point. don't elaborate on much...if he ask you what your doing...give a short response...skip the U? no open ended questions. always be polite...just act a little less interested.
7:15pmAnn ok, i think i can do that.
7:15pmMisty i know you can
7:16pmAnn i feel like previously, i've been a big tease
7:16pmMisty don't play too hard...i tend to over do it. so what? it's okay to be a tease. not all the time
7:16pmAnn and i don;t want to be that either. i value honesty and openness, and that hasn't really worked for me thus far. well, poo. now i'll have no one to talk to- no im's at work, and no texting. lol
7:17pmMisty i know...i like being honest and telling ppl exactly how i feel...but you have to be in the right position...relationship wise to do that-or that's how i feel anyway. you can IM me. lol...i can't IM back all the time-but i will when i can. :)
7:18pmAnn that makes sense. we have to be at the right step to be open and honest
7:18pmMisty yep. they freak out otherwise. speaking of freaking out...i might do something with tyler tonight-im not sure yet...he's supposed to call after he takes his little girl trick r treating.
7:19pmAnn how is that working out for you? was he totally pissed after wednesday?
7:19pmMisty i dont know...friday he IMed me and asked me how us was...but i never answered bc i was in interviews. but only jessica and i went. i didnt take anyone and she didnt take alex
7:21pmAnn i'm sure you still had fun. so you guys haven't gone out since last week?
7:22pmMisty since...keeneland
7:23pmAnn wow. i bet he's in withdrawl. lol
7:24pmMisty ummm, i bet he's reconsidering how his actions from now on...he knew i had other options before....know he KNOWS i have other options. im not going to sit around and wait on him
7:24pmAnn good for you. i need to look into those other options of which you speak
7:25pmMisty unfortunately, he also knows how full of games i am...and i get the feeling he doesn't think he can trust me. there are downsides to these games
7:25pmAnn that is true.
7:25pmMisty i've never lied about anything...but still...
7:26pmAnn i think i can fly under the radar for a while since i haven't tried it at all
7:26pmMisty with the other options...i think he thinks im not serious about him...and i am. i really do like him
yep. i think thats a good call
7:26pmAnn i'm sure he'll chalk up monday to me just being embarrassed about tonight and not the start of my backing off
7:27pmMisty i just cant believe he said that...and wtf with d?
7:28pmAnn i don't even know
7:28pmMisty thats def a break of trust...
7:28pmAnn it's almost as if it was deliberate sabotage
7:29pmMisty i wouldnt trust d anymore with anything
7:30pmAnn yeah. i'm not even talking to him for a while.
7:30pmMisty i wouldnt. and i think this is a good time to evaluate your friends and who you can confide in.
7:31pmAnn you're still good, right? lol
7:31pmMisty yep!
7:32pmAnn i guess my problem was that i tried having a straight male as a platonic friend
7:35pmMisty you have to be very selective with those...its very hard to have a platonic made friend...usually there is some kind of physical attraction...when girls are friends with boys...so likely he's interested in you thats why he sabotaged you
7:36pmAnn it's on his side then, i do not have any romantic feelings towards him
7:36pmMisty that may be true...but its fairly common.
7:37pmAnn man, i have been so out of the loop with relationship stuff
7:37pmMisty cosmo...pick them up, read them, don't take them too literally.
7:37pmAnn i feel like i'm 16 or 17 instead of 29 when it comes to this stuff
7:38pmMisty bc it doesnt get any better as you get older-only worse
7:39pmAnn lol, something to look forward to
7:40pmMisty i feel like it was so easy when i was younger...i guess i just didnt know then what i know now
7:41pmAnn i appreciate the advice
7:41pmMisty i try. take the things you think fit your situation...
7:42pmAnn i will. i think i have a handle on things now- being sober helps too. :)
7:42pmMisty yeah, drinking doesnt help much really
7:43pmAnn it's funny. it brought up a bunch of stuff that i had been suppressing. didn't know i had it in me.
7:44pmMisty bless it...another tip...i've been reading your notes. just a suggestion, but i think its best to keep your frustrations about not being in a relationship off fb. i know its really how you feel, but at the same time, if an interested boy reads your notes, it may come off desperate and make them run the other direction.
most boys freak out about commitment
7:45pmAnn ok. i was afraid i was giving off the desperation vibes. i guess i was, ha ha.
7:46pmMisty ah, not really, it was just becoming a consistent msg
7:47pmAnn yeah. i see that. someone should come up with a better set of questions.
7:48pmMisty haha, you should!